Today, as you see whitewashed images of a post-prison, unarmed, grandfatherly Mandela, please remember that he was someone who had the pride and courage to take up arms against his oppressor. Mandela fought in a guerilla war against white supremacy in South Africa, as did many others all across the world. Our own CIA alerted the SA authorities to Mandela’s location, which is what led to his 27 years behind bars and the medical condition which felled him today. Our government was responsible for that crime, and still holds our own anti-apartheid militants behind bars. So when you see Obama crying his crocodile tears later today remember that he would imprison a modern Mandela, that he arms the apartheid government of Israel, that he refuses to pardon those who fought against the corporations propping up the South African government here in the US, and that he has done everything he can to crush the kind of dissent that Mandela stood for.
If you identify as a feminist and tell a guy you’re dating that you are, then you’ve likely been on one of those dates where the guy says, ‘Well, I won’t hold the door open for you then,’ or, ‘So I guess that means you want to split the bill?’ This focus on simple gestures obscures the real needs feminists have when it comes to how we date. It is not about holding the door open, and it’s not about the bill; it’s about recognizing the ways in which gender is connected with power and how those power imbalances play out when we’re dating.
Samhita Mukhopadhyay, Outdated: Why Dating Is Ruining Your Love Life (via brute-reason)
Boys are rarely told that their virginity is a gift, or indeed that their sexuality is about “giving” something to another person – lightly or not. Boys “get laid”, “get lucky”, “get some”. They “take a girl’s virginity”, “take advantage”; if they’re thoughtful, they “take their time”. Boys are not taught to think of themselves or their virginity as something to be offered up, unwrapped and enjoyed.